David G. Eigen, Ph.D. ™

There is not a soul who has not heard, if not thought that this is crazy world. It is, but why is this so?

First, what is “crazy,” what does it really mean, and what are the signs of it? The definition of crazy includes: mentally deranged; demented; insane; senseless; impractical; or totally unsound. To this I would add: being disconnected from reality; living in a fantasy world that may be hellacious or heavenly, but is nonetheless unreal. You can see this in people who are narcissistic, its all about them, or the negative narcissist who makes it all about everybody else, which is really about them in a negative way. Craziness shows up in people’s actions in which they may say or act in ways that are incongruent with their own statements or reality. Congruency, being in line with all aspects of self, is a key indicator. If a person doesn’t “walk their talk,” that is incongruent. This is crazy, but not what would be considered clinically crazy. Lies are a good indicator too. If you can’t tell the truth, that is crazy (pathological). Politicians, celebrities, bankers and Wall Streeters all have displayed their lack of empathy and consideration for others, told self-serving lies, and generally been incongruent in their behaviors except where their gluttony comes into play. This, they are heartlessly congruent about. Tiger Woods had an image that was not congruent with his reality. That is crazy and now has been labeled as sex addiction. It far more than that, it is an underlying incongruency with self.

Crazy doesn’t mean needing to be locked up; it is just not being in line with self. Einstein said that the definition of crazy was doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. The actions and resultants were incongruent with one’s expectations.

Now, using the above understandings, would society in general not be classified as crazy? Nothing is in line with anything else; chaos reins supreme no matter how diligently the powers that be try to change, fix, or cover them up. They are still basing their actions on unsound thinking; the underlying incongruencies are still in place, and so the results remain constant. In fact, is our government not flip-flopping along diametrically opposed party lines, with its inherent corruption and oppositional views of reality.  What the country and world needs will never be resolved from diametric opposition, only union and partnership. What we have is simply a dynamically crazy system, easily manipulated, in our crazy world. Pitting one side against another, with no holds barred, creates the ripples of craziness that last for generations. One example of this is called unbridled capitalism. The opposite is communism/fascism. Neither works, though certainly having liberty is better than not; cooperative guidance is also needed, not unbridled anarchy, or rigid structure. In fact, perhaps the U.S. founding fathers got it wrong in creating polarity with the Bicameral Congress and two party systems. All one has to do to influence, read that control, an outcome is influence one side differently then normal, and the other side, which normally responds in a certain fashion, finds itself responding differently also. It changes the final composite. It also keeps everyone distracted in the battle, while the underlying agenda is accomplished, unnoticed.

In human terms, it affects the effect of the interaction. The dichotomy influenced the resultant. The results will be different and unexpected from those rigidly designed structures we all create, called our perception of our world and lives. I believe a trinity is better than a polarizing dichotomy. This way there will be a fluid ever-changing exchange of ideas. Rigid right or left thinking becomes unlikely and union, what is best for all is possible.

The so-called “battle-of-the-sexes” is another example of this craziness that affects every one of us. This is what my books are based on and seek to correct. In fact, I submit it is the underlying root disassociation for all others. We start out as children and immediately are brainwashed with the beliefs that parts of our  god-given essence is wrong, shameful. For men, it is feelings, the inner feminine energy, which is disallowed, starting with the admonition that “big boys don’t cry.” Men are then taught to replace all emotional needs with sex and expressions of anger. The roots of this and how it plays out, plus how to change all this are clearly spelled-out in my award-winning first book, Men –The Gods of Love.

Women are told, “don’t trouble your little mind, we men will handle it.” This tells a woman she is mentally not equal to men. This is of course nonsense. Add to that, she may see the masculine mental energy as being powerful, but also heartless. This would make it unattractive and further disconnect her from her masculine mental aspect. I have explained this clearly in my recently released second book Women – The Goddesses of Wisdom.

All right, so we have a picture of our crazy world as a dichotomy, the splitting in two of a whole, moving to opposing sides and importantly, making the other side wrong. If part of the world and ourselves is wrong, than the world must be wrong, read that crazy. This is the same principal for individuals, if part of us is wrong, then we must be wrong. That is called shame. Now, if we remain crazy, we are more easily influenced by certain techniques applied to either side, or both at once. Fear is certainly a technique used, and it has been applied with great success recently. We are being shaped into a world of grateful have nots and haves. Splitting these underclasses, us, into opposing forces, getting us to fight amongst ourselves is key. Then getting both sides to fear and blame each other for our crazy world, allows one a lot of leverage. We can see this in today’s world most clearly. Fear is rampant. People will give up rights, freedoms, and even their first-born to ward off the fear. Fear can only exist in polarity, where it exerts the most influence; it is impotent in union. Our corporations were just handed the keys to controlling this country through a recent Supreme Court ruling giving them the unlimited ability to pay-off and further corrupt our political system. This was in fact a revolution; the rich and powerful have now become far more powerful and dangerous. They will keep us distracted and in fear so they can control us, and horde more wealth. It will seem like an even crazier world, until we have given up all our rights to free thinking. But, there will be the illusion that we still have the right. Then, they will dictate order, read that safety and structure, and dole out what scraps we are to receive. And we will lap it up, thinking it is a safer, less crazy world. That is the most dangerous crazy scenario I can think of, and I am seeing it occur right before our eyes.

So what can we do? That is the question. Here is the answer, counter-revolution, taking back our power that we gave up, while looking at how our own greed and gluttony allowed this. This will not be pleasant, but is necessary if we are to retain any power. Bin-Laden was a distracting pawn, used successfully to create fear, so we would not notice how we were and are being raped. “I’ll give up anything to feel safe.” I hope it’s not too late. Awareness is the first step, second is the plan for correcting the situation, and third is taking action. I am not sure what that will look like. But clearly, Big Brother is the corporation, run by the wealthy that control them. Ah, but don’t worry, they will take care of you and your family. Enslave them is more like it. And they are well on their way to create this world of servitude to their greed and excesses.

Men frequently act out roles they’ve learned, find them unfulfilling, and then, seeing no other possibilities, blame women. To men’s continued disappointment, this results in failed relationships. Why? Because men simply don’t know how to behave in partnerships based on feelings. Instead, they are force-fed and accept the stereotype of the fearless macho protector who distrusts and is disconnected from emotions. These men search in vain for fulfilling romantic relationships. They often substitute sex for intimacy, thinking them synonymous, not realizing sex, an aspect of intimacy, requires vulnerability. “Good God, not that!

Women often don’t have a clue about were men come from, but they think they do. “All men want is sex,” being a favorite understanding, a put-down of men. In truth, it is “all men are allowed is sex,” and of course anger. That’s it ladies, all other emotions have be made wrong for men by the patriarchy, with a litany of prohibitions starting with “big boys don’t cry.” Guess who teaches men this? Often, it is their mothers as primary teachers, but also their fathers, peers, and society in general. Who are they taught they are doing this disassociation from feelings for? Women of course! Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

This denial of feelings in men prevents their maturing into full men of the powerful and loving sort. You will find women complaining about men as heartless and unfeeling and then chasing the “bad boys.” This is naturally confusing for both genders. Women want the strong masculine “daddy-like” energy that makes the decisions and therefore becomes the responsible party. That icky responsibility that gets in the way of rampant emotional desires. And women are used to it, and have a perverse sort of comfort with macho men. What they get is not what they thought, or need. Then, they make men out to be wrong or bad.

Men want the “mommy-like” energy that nurtures, supports, guides, but most importantly unconditionally loves and approves of them. If he is plays the immature boy that needs taking care of, she will tire of this and lose the vital energy she needs to feel in order to sustain a relationship. If he plays the macho man who is always in charge, not to be question, but to be followed blindly, she will be inhibited and wind up sucked dry also, just from a different angle. The results are the same. Either way he will never feel fulfilled, nor will she.

Women on the other-hand are allowed all emotions, excluding anger, “nice girls don’t show there anger,” but they’re denied reason. How does this happen? Anything that treats women as unable to understand something, tells them that their mental reasoning abilities are not enough. The man makes the hard decisions, because women just can’t. “Its too difficult for you to understand or do honey,” or “don’t you trouble that pretty little head,” actually say women are not capable. So women disassociate from the rational mental part of themselves, just like men do with feelings.

Therefore, women can’t see or understand men’s heavy dependency on the mental. They see men as being heartless, not disabled. Women become disabled themselves, just like men. That’s because they’re not matured either. It takes the mental reasoning to understand what to do with the emotional awareness.

Like emotional little girls, women remained stuck in immaturity, as are men. It just looks different, but these are learned handicaps. One is of the overstuffed, locked-down, mental variety; the other is seemingly the embodiment of rampant chaotic emotions.

Women haven’t been taught, encouraged, or allowed to use their mental abilities, nor how to focus emotions with these abilities. If they were they could understand and guide men to wholeness. Instead, they judge men as Neanderthals. You can’t live with them and can’t live without them.

Men don’t teach, allow, or encourage women to think, and therefore, become angry and frustrated with women’s emotional chaos. Yet, because men have been denied access to their emotions, they can’t understand, and are helpless to intervene. This results in their being left unfulfilled and resentful.

We must all awaken to our own missing parts, not blame the others. This is not walking on water, or becoming a Guru, and yet it is. I always thought to awaken meant some giant leap into an unattainable superhuman state. No, it means awakening from our dream-like states of semi-consciousness, to a fully aware and feeling human state. Go for it! You can do it! All you have to do is to use your intention to create it and take action. Oh, and don’t forget to forgive yourself and others for past, present, and future mistakes. This is how we learn.