David G. Eigen, Ph.D. ™

Sex and the City 2, The gang of four hit the screens again. What does this say about women’s friendships? Is it real?

Listen: Mary in the Morning 5-28-10

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Interview on the adventure of the gang of four, Carrie and her cronies, in Sex and the City 2.

Listen: KFWB 5-27-10

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Authoritative cite in article on why Cougars or women marrying much older men have shorten lifespans.

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Article on old stereotypes for women, especially in the South citing Dr. Eigen.

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Link to article on the perception that women get depressed more than men.

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Discussion of Dr. Eigen’s Books with T. Love

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Women and Drinking

Link to NY Daily News Article on Better Educated Women More Likely to Be Problem Drinkers

We all know of the recently exposed philandering of male celebrities, politicians, sports figures, etc. Now, we have Sandra Bullock’s (mismatched bad boy) husband caught with his pants down too. Appropriately enough for a bad boy chopper builder his philandering is with a “tattoo model.” A rose by any other name… What was Bullock doing with him in the first place? Interestingly, it seems that during the last ten years, SEVENTY PERCENT of the Academy Awards Best Actresses have been cheated on, broken up with or gotten divorced from cheaters. So what is going on with the men that the women are missing? It seems women have missed the fact that men like the same thing they do, attention. That means not being an accessory for women, their arm candy, having the majority of their woman’s attention, and feeling like they are important. What woman doesn’t desire this?

Newsflash – men want and need the same thing as women. While women are working hard on their careers and the publicity needed for it, where does he, as a man, fit in? The t-shirts proclaim, “It’s all about me,” and “I’m with stupid.” Here’s a new one, “Men are fashion accessories.” Oh how witty! Yes, I know women have felt like this for eons, and that is righty changing. However, if a women thinks for a moment that she can exact revenge on her man for society’s past mistakes, without consequences, fa-gita-bout-it. Yes, I know one says that they are not intentionally doing this. Forget that too, they are. It only is coming from their unconscious shadow, that part not seen. And every man and woman has one. And there are always women looking to experience their power by stealing your man, or at least a piece of him, with not so much as an iota of concern for you. This last part is a horrify statement about the present nature of the feminine, often missed, yet a true one.

Now, as to the men, they’re emotionally like little boys needing constant reassurance, attention, adulation, respect and love. But what woman doesn’t want this too? Oh, that’s right, the men are supposed to be the rock and need nothing emotionally, except sex. If she missed this part, his needs, he will be someone else’s rock eventually. Even if she wins an Academy Award! Men have been well trained and are doing exactly what they’re trained to do, using sex to replace their needs. If a woman ignores his needs because of career, family, outside interests, etc., then she may loose him to another, or the man will withdraw inside and become sullen and or twisted. Are we not seeing this? Sex addicted men, replacing their disallowed emotional needs with sex and the attention that comes with it. Remember, when a woman gives herself to a man, he is the center of her attention. This makes him feel important, manly. Don’t minimize this. Men then become dependant (addicted) to these replacements to true emotions.

If a woman was or is too busy to give them the attention men need, and or the men feel small or diminished by your success, and someone else wants to give them adulation, well there is a good chance he will succumb, isn’t there. And women know how to make their men feel important, but may even harbor a secret desire to raise themselves by diminishing their men, or may simply be too busy to care. And of course, women have egos too.

Men need to be allowed feelings and talk about them. Then, men can find ways that are fulfilling on the long term. But society is not here yet, so I speak and write about of this with the intent of raising awareness, and women must be aware of the limitation placed on a man by society, just as there are limitations placed on women. Then maybe we all can love and be loved.

Subject: Reality TV shows like the Bachelor and Women – The Goddesses of Wisdom.

Listen: drpat 2-25-10

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