David G. Eigen, Ph.D. ™

John Edwards, Tiger Woods debacle and the “women that whore with them.”

Listen: WWWI 2-23-10

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It has almost become expected, “who will be the next cheating male celebrity-politician-sports star-media talent to be exposed?” Without question the cheaters broke their vows and this is unacceptable, especially for our “role models.”

However, I find it funny, that the women they cheated with, even when they show themselves to be clearly calculating, gold-digging, heartless whores are mostly overlooked. Oh sorry, that’s right, we do want to see what they look like, but who they are as humans, and what part they played is unimportant. We squawk about them if the wives are prettier, “How could he when he has such a pretty wife?” Now, that is worth talking about! But the fact that she is a totally unrepentant home-wrecker goes unsaid, as if it is expected of women. And it is. Maybe it is because women are innocent, childlike, and cannot be held responsible? Or are all these women just innocent victims seduced by the evil male sex fiends? We all know it is always the man’s fault and they are all sex fiends. Or is it just that a woman is not responsible for her actions, being after all, chaotic emotionality, which they cannot control, so we just don’t expect them to?

In the not too distant past women were treated like children, or worse, property. I believe this set the tone for modern day women in establishing the very behaviors I’ve mentioned above. Underlying all these obviously ignored actions the mistresses played-out in these now public affairs is an assumption that all women are just this way.

This is demeaning to women, and becomes their self-fulfilling prophecy. Yes, the men were wrong, but so were the women participants. And in most cases, the women were at least as culpable. Many of these women threw themselves at the men knowing they were married. Yes, the men can and should say no. But let’s face it, the men, especially those on the road, are lonely, are told by their training as men they should want sex at every opportunity, and are easily enticed. In a perfect world they would just say no. That didn’t work for drugs and the present prospects for it working for men are not too promising. This may change in the future, but for now, we better work with what we have, men who are taught that their sexuality is a measure of their masculinity and who have become addicted to sex. And women know how easily men are manipulated by stroking their macho egos and other places.

OK, my point is stop making men responsible for all wrongs, and let the women step-up and share responsibility for what didn’t work. Understanding why all parties do what they do is critical. Otherwise, we will never get away from finger pointing. In one of my blog articles Why Men Leave their Children a reader commented on how her husband left the country for work for one year, but two and a half years later has not returned. She didn’t mention why she didn’t go with him, but had a lot to say as to what a bastard he was.

Here is my response to her that I felt pertinent enough to print here:

First, I feel your rage and your pain. I can relate fully. We humans do unbelievable things to each other, and blind ourselves to the consequences. That is no excuse for the blindness, just an understanding. What’s the use of understanding? We can use it to see the why. How could they do what they do? We can use it to look deeper into the other person, and perhaps explore how they’ve “become trapped in a past that doesn’t let them choose” (Sarah McLachlan, I Will Remember You). YES, I hear you shouting in reply, “Horse… they can choose.” My dear Kim, we live in a world trapped by its own perceptions and deceits. To the world, there are no choices. And you’re right these are illusions, but powerful ones. The only choice for you is to understand this, stand in your truth, and stand firm that others should also. But without the understanding, you will never be able to create the change you so deeply desire, nor to inspire others to have the courage to change what so deeply needs changing. Demands and blame just shut others down. Been there, done that. One last thing, what are you or were you pretending not to know because you wanted to believe? Been there, done that too, don’t like it. Sounds like your husband found someone else and is guilty about it. Your understandable demand for him to return just makes him feel guiltier and he withdraws further. This is painful I know. I can’t lessen that for you. I doubt he went away planning on finding someone else, but he did. Time to let go and move on. If you ram down his throat “I thought you were a G-d damn loving father,” which says he is a liar, bad father and husband, all that will happen is you will drive him away further from his daughters out of your anger. Also, why did you not move with him on his job relocation? He was left alone for a year and you are surprised someone else wanted him?

Dr. Eigen’s new book Women – The Goddesses of Wisdom and Valentine’s Day will be the topics.

Listen: WCIT 2-12-10

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John Edwards, Tiger Woods debacle and the “women that whore with them.” How does Valentine’s Day play into these issues?

Listen: WINA 2-12-10

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John Edwards, Tiger Woods debacle and the “women that whore with them.”

Listen: WLW 2-11-10

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Book Talk to be held at Royal Palm Place. Federal Highway just south of Palmetto Park Road.
Wine & Cheese Served
RSVP Required

The location:  Tipsy Salon, Spa & Lounge in Royal Palm Place
Address: 100 Plaza Real South, Suite J  (Next to French Bakery and across from Chops Lobster Bar)

Phone: 561.347.7496

Interview on the the cheating men in the news and why they cheat.

Listen: WAQY-2-9-10

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YOU-FM at 106.7FM or 105.5FM prerecorded to air 2/9/10 on the cheating men in the news and the women that stand by them.

Listen: mary in the morn 2-8-10

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Is it them or me that is mixed-up? It’s painful to watch them shoot themselves in the foot. And there are so many others like them. Distracting sex addiction run rampant leaving a path of broken vows, collateral damage, and self-destruction. Horrifying! I have spoken about men being taught to replace emotions with sex in the previous article, Why Men Cheat, which becomes their addictions. Women know and use this all the time as part of their addictions to attention and material desires. Men seeing this, know women can be bought with ease, and buy they do. Most of our presidents have “partaken,” to the point we should be honest and open an Office of Presidential Satisfaction. The line for applicants would stretch for blocks with a unending supply of new faces. I want my president happily satisfied. Political marriages are obviously not satisfying, and even if they were, which they’re not, would the men resist the pussycats thrown in their faces? Should they?

Just as horrifying is the long list of willing whores who “diss” their sisters, attempt to steal other’s men away, or at least use them for their own aggrandizement, irrespective of the damage it causes. What are we coming to? A society of whores, male and female, political, media, banking, Wall Street, legal, religious. Anything for a buck, or is a Yuen? “Who cares as long as I’ve got it.”

We all play a part. Through the lies that we swear to thing we know are not true trying to create saleable illusions. We have become a world of self-involved liars wanting immediate gratification at any cost, to others that is. We laugh at and feel superior to those whose lies have been exposed, but continue to turn a blind eye to our own. So the answer is simple – Live in the Truth. Um, simple? Easier said then done is more like it. So what will it take to affect this shift in humankind’s consciousness?

Humanity must agree to the truth, the whole truth, so help us God. No, governmental leaders are not immune, nor corporate or religious leaders either, nobody is. All must agree to mutually supporting the truth by demanding the truth, being truthful, and being willing to call a lie, a lie, even if it is your boss. That takes huge courage and must be supported by others and rewarded by the organizations. Whistle blower being honored, can you imagine that? The darkness of gluttony is a lie to our souls. It means doing anything to accumulate, without an iota of care for others. Let it trickle down (my leg) to them. Of course, we must strangle them off first, so they will accept the trickling. That process is well under way today. Inside, the gluttons know this subterfuge, and those being trickled know it too. Those addicted to gluttony try to accumulate more to stave off guilt. That is the nature of addiction. We are all rushing into the depths of hell. Nobody can stop us; it is our right to self-destruction. That’s what sets us apart from the animal kingdom. Animals aren’t as sophisticated, or stupid. Somehow we see this anarchy as freedom. Just another word for nothing left to lose. Insanity.

Look at Edward’s former campaign aide who was willing to lie and take responsibility for fathering Edward’s child, but who quickly saw the dollar signs on the wall and wrote a book about the lies that he was an accomplice to. And then there is the videographer. This was not a teenager who doesn’t know about birth control, this is a forty something manipulative gold-digging whore, plain and simple. She announced with glee how Edwards wanted to see her, but had to stop because his wife found out she was dying of cancer, “but he wanted me!” And she trapped him by becoming and staying pregnant. This dark manipulative aspect of the feminine gets ignored. These behaviors are accepted as normative in women! What the hell is going on, what are we thinking! Besides, it is always men’s fault. It is all too disgusting for words, yet people lap this sort of “news” up. If they judge it in others they can pretend it is not in them. Au contraire.

Rome is collapsing; yet we only care about our next gluttonous eating binge, trip to the vomitorium, then on to the orgy. The slaves won’t mind. Who cares if they do anyway?

Those that fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it. Restated, this principal psychologically is: those that fail to look at their inner history, their shadows or darkside, are doomed to repeat it. We need to stop blaming the other gender and fix our own ugliness. The purpose of my books: Men – The Gods of Love, and the just released Women – The Goddesses of Wisdom is to help you do just that. What in you stops you from reading them?

Dr. Eigen’s new book Women – The Goddesses of Wisdom and Valentine’s Day will be the topics. Prerecorded to be aired in short takes till Valentine’s Day.

Listen: CNN Radio

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